We love neat phrases that make heartbreak feel logical. “If they wanted to, they would” sounds clean and certain—but real life rarely is. People don’t all arrive with the same emotional capacity, readiness, or courage. Sometimes someone wants you deeply and still can’t show up, not because you aren’t worthy, but because their heart isn’t healed enough to hold what they desire. This essay explores the space between wanting and being ready—and why God cares about that gap far more than we realize.